Sarvis wrote:Her: "We work at denny's.
Me: Have a good night...
That's how the conversation would have gone if it were me.
Sarvis wrote:Her: "We work at denny's.
Me: Have a good night...
Corth wrote:More than anything else, this thread is lacking pictures.
amena wolfsnarl wrote:Corth wrote:More than anything else, this thread is lacking pictures.
yeah how creepy would that be busting out the camera to get pictures so we can see what these woman look like.
Have you tried a website like plentyoffish.com? seems that are lots of woman on there looking for a relationship......or so i hear *whistle*
The way ive always looked at it, its harder to pick up woman in the bar, it depends more on physical looks (and how drunk they are) and not as much on personallity, charisma, etc.... on top of that its usually not a relationship type of hookup, usually the best you can hope for is a booty call, and from what ive read you want more than that.
Im not saying the bar is a bad thing but maybe try other avenues too.
Ambar wrote:That is what some call a friend or acquaintance. The women experts may say more but .. yeah friend..
I am one who greets people with a hug (Heh I did it on the MUD too, go figure) and I can promise you I don't want to sleep with or date everyone I hug. Is there potential? Don't know til you try but .. yeah stop friggin reading into EVERYTHING that happens, go with the flow. Sounds to me you may be a decent looking guy but you come across soooo creepy!
By the way the Asian name may be foreign to you but yeah .. google it yourself and see how many hits you get :) There are a LOT of Asians :)
Ambar wrote:Yes we will keep creepy guys as friends, LOL
Your friends have never called you and said "hey man come meet us out" ?
If I demanded you put a loaded gun to your head and demanded you pull the trigger, would you?
I woke up too early, this is fun :)
By the way talked to a store from Buffalo yesterday and it creeps out it made me think of you :(
And no we wont visit you when we are in the area next week :P (Goin to visit dad in Syracuse area, not exactly THERE but close)
Ambar wrote:That is what some call a friend or acquaintance. The women experts may say more but .. yeah friend.. I am one who greets people with a hug (Heh I did it on the MUD too, go figure) and I can promise you I don't want to sleep with or date everyone I hug. Is there potential? Don't know til you try but .. yeah stop friggin reading into EVERYTHING that happens, go with the flow. Sounds to me you may be a decent looking guy but you come across soooo creepy!
Ragorn wrote:Ambar wrote:That is what some call a friend or acquaintance. The women experts may say more but .. yeah friend.. I am one who greets people with a hug (Heh I did it on the MUD too, go figure) and I can promise you I don't want to sleep with or date everyone I hug. Is there potential? Don't know til you try but .. yeah stop friggin reading into EVERYTHING that happens, go with the flow. Sounds to me you may be a decent looking guy but you come across soooo creepy!
Yes, Ambar is correct. You made a friend/acquaintance. She's not trying to sleep with you, she's just being friendly. And yes, I demand my friends come out ALL THE TIME. All the time. I joke them when they refuse. It's part of being friends.
Kifle wrote:Ragorn wrote:Ambar wrote:That is what some call a friend or acquaintance. The women experts may say more but .. yeah friend.. I am one who greets people with a hug (Heh I did it on the MUD too, go figure) and I can promise you I don't want to sleep with or date everyone I hug. Is there potential? Don't know til you try but .. yeah stop friggin reading into EVERYTHING that happens, go with the flow. Sounds to me you may be a decent looking guy but you come across soooo creepy!
Yes, Ambar is correct. You made a friend/acquaintance. She's not trying to sleep with you, she's just being friendly. And yes, I demand my friends come out ALL THE TIME. All the time. I joke them when they refuse. It's part of being friends.
Yes, this. She demands of acquaintances because to her, the more the merrier. She hugs because she is a girl.
Sarvis wrote:Really though, this is our first interaction outside of her meetup group and even then we only spoke a little. (Though I did help with the cleanup after one of them.) What I'm attempting to say here is, do people really invite each other out barely knowing each other like that?
I don't know about the "she hugs because she is a girl" part though. I've only known one other girl who was actually a hugger, she was dating a friend of mine.
My guess (emphasis on guess here) is that she's first generation American and hugging/touching is more common in her parents' culture.
Ambar wrote:LOL you need to stop this BS :P Stop rethinking stuff and try to twist it to your favor.
Once again you will not know until you try with the cute girl but stop the over thinking. Also did we really need to know she was Asian? Cute girl works just as well :) I never introduce people as my black or Asian friend, they are just my friend .. I think it was you who hated personal labels, stop using them :)
She hugs because she is outgoing and friendly. You also said you were not the only guy she hugged or did you conveniently forget that part of the equation. Hell she may want to sleep with both of you! If she hugs the whole group maybe she is a whore in disguise! Could be a stripper too! Yes people call their acquaintances and friends to go out. As someone said, the more the merrier.
Yes girls will keep creepy acquaintances/friends. We don't have to sleep with said creepy people but it is fun to talk to creepy people sometimes. If you keep them as friends, you also know where they are :P And creepy guys aren't dangerous, just weird. Outgoing people like friends. Period. End of story. Plus you may be able to help said creepy person with their creepiness, help them be less creepy. I think I have officially over - used that word, heh .. sorry bout that!
Ragorn wrote:Girls hug. In America. In this generation.
Sarvis wrote:Ragorn wrote:Girls hug. In America. In this generation.
That certainly explains why I've only ever met two girls who hug acquaintances... :roll:
Ambar wrote:It is not rocket science, again dont read too much into it ..
You must have been HELL to teach geometry to.
Kifle wrote:I would assume that this girl invited you because she is on the more extreme of the social spectrum, and she enjoys the company of many people. These people like to be the center of attention, the person that "knows everyone at the party," and will generally dominate the conversation in a small group of people. I would imagine she floats around at parties from group to group.
She more than likely invited you because you seemed cool at the first meet-up and probably was intending to further the friendship; however, you aren't in the "friend zone" yet, so pursuing her isn't out of the question. Good luck on reading her signals though if you do intend to go that route. People like that are difficult to read. Signs, in this case though, point towards just friends. Sorry, bud.
Edit: One thing that I think is important to add: When you're at a party that somebody invites you to, do your best to mix in with the group and not wait for the person who invited you to entertain you. Social people HATE having to babysit people they invite to parties -- they like to mix up their conversations and float around. Yeah, they will talk with one person for extended periods of time occasionally, but don't expect it to be you. If she looks up, and you've been sitting/standing alone for 20 minutes, she's going to be annoyed for feeling she has to go talk to you and leave whatever she is doing.
Ragorn wrote:Bartender: If you don't ask her out the next time you see her, it will be too late to ever do so. Just sayin'.
Sarvis wrote:I tried my normal sarcastic/joking/flirting stuff whenever the bartender interacted with us. Not sure how well that went really, and frankly it seemed like Jill (the girl from my meetup group) did better than I did since they were both into random spiritual crap that I don't believe in.
Corth wrote:Sarvis wrote:I tried my normal sarcastic/joking/flirting stuff whenever the bartender interacted with us. Not sure how well that went really, and frankly it seemed like Jill (the girl from my meetup group) did better than I did since they were both into random spiritual crap that I don't believe in.
This should be a clue that you are barking up the wrong tree.
But the most fascinating category of strip-clubbers we used to obsess over were the True Believers - the guys who bought into the myth, and seemed to seriously believe they had a shot with these women once “Girls, Girls, Girls” ended.
Sarvis wrote:Corth wrote:Sarvis wrote:I tried my normal sarcastic/joking/flirting stuff whenever the bartender interacted with us. Not sure how well that went really, and frankly it seemed like Jill (the girl from my meetup group) did better than I did since they were both into random spiritual crap that I don't believe in.
This should be a clue that you are barking up the wrong tree.
Why? The chances of meeting someone who believes exactly what I believe is pretty slim.
avak wrote:I just randomly stumbled on this article by Kevin Smith. It reminded me of this conversation.
On the Perils of Strip ClubsBut the most fascinating category of strip-clubbers we used to obsess over were the True Believers - the guys who bought into the myth, and seemed to seriously believe they had a shot with these women once “Girls, Girls, Girls” ended.
Really, a pretty interesting article.
Ragorn wrote:Sarvis wrote:Corth wrote:Sarvis wrote:I tried my normal sarcastic/joking/flirting stuff whenever the bartender interacted with us. Not sure how well that went really, and frankly it seemed like Jill (the girl from my meetup group) did better than I did since they were both into random spiritual crap that I don't believe in.
This should be a clue that you are barking up the wrong tree.
Why? The chances of meeting someone who believes exactly what I believe is pretty slim.
The key fact is that she talked to your friend more than you, not that you don't believe her fairy and crystal magical crap.
2:14 Her: Are you home safely yet? I hope your okay!
2:17 Me: Almost... don't you have better things to be thinking about?
2:18 Her: No I'm pretty drunk, I gotta sober up! Text me when you get there... so I'm not wondering all night !
2:27 Me: You can't be that drunk. I'm home though so you can stop worrying...
2:33 Me: See, I knew it... you stopped worrying already
2:34 Her: NO! I totally read that! I just figured you were going to pass out now
2:35 Me: I'm probably not as drunk as you think... still think it's odd I'm the one you're worrying about though
Ragorn wrote:She is making you her Cuddle Bitch. You're the one she holds hands with and flirts with when her boyfriend's not around. He's the one she goes home and sleeps with.
Don't hold her hand. Don't be her partner for darts. Don't text her other than to say you're home... and don't follow up when she doesn't answer. Be her friend, but you're not going to be her boyfriend, so move on and find someone else who isn't going to play with you.
amena wolfsnarl wrote:2 words man:
DOOOOOOO IIIIIIIITTTTTT!!!!!!!
Sarvis wrote:Pril, seriously... after reading this thread you think I have a chance in hell of getting that to happen?
I'll be lucky if they don't all hate me by Sunday morning...
Sarvis wrote:I'll be lucky if they don't all hate me by Sunday morning...
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